Is this really relevant today? Why should we only be friends with women?
Why Women Must Choose Godly Women As Friends
I’m going to be open and transparent here with y’all about this, especially since I have personal experience with it. There’s also the aspect of dealing with other women who are experiencing this in their lives and it is creating problems.
So, one of the questions that I have been asked on a Facebook group (women only!) that I manage is this question: Can men or women have friends of the opposite sex and spend time with them as friends? I’ll talk specifically about this in a bit, hang tight.
God created men and women with different sets of emotions, not to mention physically different. While men tend to look at things an analyze from a logical standpoint, women tend to look at things from an emotional standpoint.
Ok, now you can close your mouth!! I will add that those roles can be reversed. For example, I look at things from an analytical standpoint and try to keep my emotions in check … however, there are times when I can’t. Men can also look at things from an emotional standpoint.
Now that we have that out of the way … whew! … let’s move on to why Women Must Choose Godly Women as Friends.
While God’s Word does not specifically warn against being friends with the opposite sex, there are scriptures that warn us against putting ourselves in situations where there is temptation and how to honor God.
2 Timothy 2:22a “Run from anything that stimulates youthful lust.”
1 Corinthians 6:18-20 “Run away from sexual sin! No other sin so clearly affects the body as this one does. For sexual immorality is a sin against your own body. Or don’t you know that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit, who lives in you and was given to you by God? You do not belong to yourself, for Gd bought you with a high price. So you must honor God with your body.”
1 Corinthians 10:31 “Whatever you eat or drink or whatever you do, do it all for the glory of God.”
2 Timothy 2:22b “Follow anything that makes you want to do right. Pursue faith and love and peace, and enjoy the companionship of those who call on the Lord with pure hearts.”
There is one scripture that speaks alot to me on the relationship of a man and woman in marriage and that is Ephesians 5:31-33 “As the Scriptures say, ‘A man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one.’ This is a great mystery, but it is an illustration of the way Christ and the church are one. So again I say, each man must love his wife as he loves himself and the wife mus respect her husband.”
Sanctity of Marriage
Your marriage relationship, this unity, merges both the man and the woman in such a way that nothing can affect one without affecting the other. This unity means caring for your spouse as you care for yourself, helping each other become all he or she can be by depending upon Christ and His love.
If a married woman chooses to be friends with a man and starts spending time with him, satan will always use that opportunity to place doubt in the woman’s mind about her husband and their marriage. This, in turn, will start tearing the marriage apart and the man you are friends with may then have the opportunity to enter a door that should not have been opened.
Don’t even go there! A long time ago, I thought it was okay to have male friends while I was married. In my mind I didn’t think there would be any harm and nobody could tell me what I could and could not do. How wrong I was! How it lured me into becoming critical of my own husband!
Here is Brittany’s post of 6 Reasons You Need Godly Friends so you can read more of why Godly friends are important.
I encourage you, precious women, to take on the mind and heart of Christ. While you may think you are strong and can withstand the temptations, I promise you, it is an open door to satan you do not want.
Think of it this way … are you honoring God? Are you honoring your husband?